Freezing High Conflict Divorce Litigation for the Collaborative Process

I strongly suggest that any person who is in the initial stages of a Florida divorce consider engaging in the collaborative process from the very beginning.  This simply means that each spouses hires an attorney solely for the purpose of helping them reach a divorce agreement.

The attorneys are contractually prohibited from wasting time and money on preparing for trial (90% or so of all divorce cases settle, yet millions and millions of dollars are spent each year preparing for a trial that rarely happens).  Discussions are held in a private, respectful, and transparent atmosphere, and other professionals are brought in as needed to tend to the parties’ financial and emotional needs.

But some clients are resistant to the collaborative process because of perceived cost issues or they feel they need to have a gunslinger to take out their spouse.  And many attorneys will not engage in the collaborative process because litigation work is pretty profitable or they have not invested the time and money in taking an introductory collaborative training.

And so there are plenty of divorce battles going on in the Florida court system.  It is not uncommon for those battles to go on for two, three, four, or more years, and for the parties to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars in attorneys’ fees, expert witness fees, deposition fees, document production fees, forensic evaluation fees, court reporter fees, and so on, and feel no closer to a final resolution of their divorce.

But there is something that can be done to change the dynamics.

If you are in a highly contentious divorce court battle, and you are absolutely sick of the way it has been proceeding, but you do not want to lose all of the work that your litigation lawyer has done, consider a litigation freeze.

Litigation Freeze

A litigation freeze is a unique opportunity for otherwise fighting spouses advocated by internationally renowned family law attorney Forrest Mosten. 

It can be a temporary, time-limited phase where all litigation stops, and the divorce litigation lawyers go on standby.  Both spouses retain collaborative lawyers who specialize in using interest-based negotiations to reach a settlement.  All of the collaborative lawyers’ energy and resources will be focused solely on settlement.

A neutral collaborative facilitator is brought in.  He or she has a mental health background, keeps communications constructive, and helps untangle the emotional knots that have build up during the litigation.

Further, a neutral financial professional is retained.  He or she ensures financial transparency and accountability in the negotiations (think “trust but verify”) and offers innovative and personally-tailored options for equitable distribution, alimony, child support, and other issues.

The use of the collaborative process is likely to help the parties get out of the vicious cycle of hate and revenge that tends to build up during nasty court battles as it takes them out of the adversarial court system.  Collaborative lawyers in a case do not view each other as enemies, but rather as teammates gathered to find a solution that is acceptable to both spouses.  Collaborative lawyers also encourage their clients to consider not only how the divorce is affecting them, but also how their actions are affecting their children, family, and community at large.

With the collaborative process, you are giving yourself the best chance to end the battles, reach an agreement, save some relationships, and be able to move on with your lives.  Almost 90% of all collaborative cases end with a full agreement reached.  But, if you are in one of those rare cases where you do not reach an agreement, you can terminate the collaborative process, take your litigator off standby, and return to the court system.

You do not need to be stuck in your divorce battle.  You have options.  You and your spouse simply need to be willing to disrupt the litigation dynamics and attempt the collaborative process.

If you have questions regarding collaborative divorce in Tampa Bay or the litigation freeze, call The Law Firm of Adam B. Cordover, P.A., at (813) 443-0615 or fill out our contact form.

Adam B. Cordover is president of Next Generation Divorce, Florida’s largest collaborative practice group.  Adam is also co-chair of the Research Committee of the Collaborative Family Law Council of Florida and a graduate of the inaugural Leadership Academy of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals.


About Adam B. Cordover, Attorney-at-Law

Family Diplomacy is dedicated to helping clients restructure their families privately and respectfully. We practice exclusively in out-of-court dispute resolution, with a focus on collaborative divorce and family law, mediation, direct negotiations, and unbundled legal services. We maintain this out-of-court practice because we strongly believe that family disputes should be resolved in a private conference room, not in a hostile and public courtroom environment. This unique perspective on family law stems back to Adam B. Cordover’s experience studying International Affairs in Washington, D.C., and abroad. Adam had the rare opportunity to work closely with ambassadors and diplomats from war-torn regions around the world. He traveled around the globe, learning from diplomatic leaders as they applied dispute resolution techniques to tackle seemingly impossible conflicts. It dawned on him: If these techniques can work in the complex world of International Relations, why not Domestic Relations and Family Law? This realization lead Adam to create an exclusively out-of-court practice and to bring a more peacemaking approach to family law. In his previous role as a litigation attorney, Adam witnessed parties experience the negative emotional and financial effects that long, drawn out divorce battles can have on families. As a result, Adam has become a strong proponent of the Collaborative Process, where a structure is put in place so that life’s hardest moments do not have to be any more difficult than necessary. A thought leader in the international collaborative law community, Adam successfully spearheaded an effort of the Thirteenth Judicial Circuit to draft an administrative order safeguarding the principles of collaborative family law (just the fourth such administrative order in Florida). Adam has been featured in or interviewed about collaborative practice by the Tampa Bay Times, Tampa Tribune, Orlando Sentinel, Miami Herald, Tampa Bay Business Journal, Florida Bar News, NBC, Fox 13, Bay News 9, ABC Action News, The World of Collaborative Practice Magazine, and Spirit FM 90.5. Adam regularly speaks at professional and civic organizations locally and internationally regarding the collaborative process. Adam B. Cordover is president of Next Generation Divorce, a 501(c)(3) and Florida’s largest interdisciplinary collaborative practice group with member attorneys, mental health professionals, and financial professionals throughout Hillsborough, Pinellas, Pasco, Sarasota, and Manatee Counties. Adam is also on the Executive Board and co-chair of the Research Committee of the Collaborative Family Law Council of Florida. Further, Adam is a graduate of the inaugural class of the Leadership Academy of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals. You can learn more about us and our services at Attorney Adam B. Cordover is admitted to the Florida Bar and the United States District Court, Middle District of Florida. His office is located at 412 East Madison Street, Suite 824, Tampa, Florida 33602.
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